October, 28, 2021
I am a member of the last generation of children to be raised during a time when there was nearly universal agreement on the need for children to be properly disciplined as well as the definition of “proper discipline.” Everyone was on the same page! Believe it or not, and it may seem fictitious, but parents agreed with and supported teachers when it came to the issue of discipline. Parents and neighbors agreed. Moms and dads agreed, even!
And then, along came a mob of mental health professionals who demonized the substance of said agreement and managed to persuade American parents to follow them down the parenting road never traveled, thus causing everything “parenting” to go to hell in a handbasket. Worst, after the mental health professional community seized control of how American children were raised, agreement went out the window. Today, no one agrees, or it would seem.
Today, the parenting marketplace offers an array of modern philosophies and approaches, all bound by one common theme: none of them work. You want proof? I got proof! Since American parents began listening to mental health professionals tell them how to properly raise children, child and teen mental health has deteriorated by a factor of ten. Mind you, when, in the 1950s and before, child therapists were found, maybe, in New York, Chicago, and Los Angeles, child and teen mental health was ten times better than it is today, when child therapists are everywhere, even in small towns in Iowa. What does that tell you?
It tells you that when it comes to children and families, mental health professionals do not know what they are talking about. It tells you that professional parenting advice has been a wrecking ball in culture. It tells you that American parents need to stop listening to professional parenting “experts,” of which, apparently, I am one.
But, and in all honesty, I am not like “them.” I don’t espouse new ideas. I advocate for the restoration of a traditional, biblically-based childrearing attitude and paradigm, as in the paradigm everyone agreed upon when I was a kid. Was said paradigm error-free? Pretty much, in fact. It was, after all, based largely on principles extracted from Western Civilization’s founding document: the Bible, aka, God’s Word. Now, imperfect human beings are going to implement even a perfect philosophy imperfectly, but that does not justify trashing the philosophy in question. Let’s face it, the mental health community didn’t know what they were doing fifty years ago and they still don’t.
As most people who read my stuff already know, I am licensed to practice psychology by the North Carolina Psychology Board, which greatly regrets the day they gave me said license. I tell people the truth about psychology and the people who practice it and they can’t do a thing about it. They can’t even mount an argument against me because (WARNING! AN OUTBURST OF WHAT MAY SEEM LIKE NARCISSISM IS IMMINENT!) I’m right. Occasionally, one of them rages against me in an email or a letter to the editor of his/her local paper, but when I invite them to debate me publicly, they go strangely silent.
That is, in essence, why I have no plans for retirement. Like The Blues Brothers, I’m a man on a mission. The mission is utmost. Besides, I’m having too much fun.
Copyright 2021, John K. Rosemond